May 21, 2013
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Which Is More Annoying?
A woman who assumes every man wants her…or one who has no clue when she is being wooed, or pursued? (And the later I mean in ALL SERIOUSNESS…not coy nonsense.)
Ok…I am your average 52 year old woman.
At least I think I am.
Since college, I have never understood men, or their “signals”, and met my husband at 20, (we did not marry for years) but I stopped NEEDING to figure out how men indicated interest. Now I am living in a new place, and I am SO special needs in that department it’s sort of pitiful. I find women who assume that all men WANT them…well…silly and sort of boring. I guess I am a challenge, because I need a very DIRECT something to understand that a man’s interest is more than just being friendly. I am literally SO dense about it, that it’s led to some horribly embarrassing moments…(the equivalent of those CAN YOU HEAR ME NOW? commercials…but with people parts.)
Now the young’uns are probably all retching…YE GODS…a 52 year old woman? Get thee to a nunnery…or something. I suggest that get over themselves. Unless they are planning to live fast, die young, and leave a pretty corpse, 52 will find them someday. And when it does, they will discover to their HORROR that what passed for dating rituals at 20 something isn’t going to fly anymore. Oh yeah…and I should perhaps mention that I AM NOT LOOKING. There is an evil irony to this, since I have not gotten this much male attention in my life. I decided when I moved that I needed some long term healing…I need time to get over a thirty year relationship, and figure out who I still am. Life changes you. I am not who I was 32 years ago. In some ways, I am LOADS better. In others…I’ve changed. So it would just figure that now that I have no real interest in dating, men finally are ASKING.
So…I’m asking the gentlemen which is more annoying. I have genuine curiosity on the topic. And as to the ladies, which camp do you fall in?
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I never Noticed boys flirting growing up. My mom pointed out boys who were looking at me when we would go out in public. LOL It became so much talk from my mom pointing it out that I felt annoyed and to this day get annoyed when flirted with by a man. I am strange but I see a man for a man not a possible match. I have my match which Ironically was set up by my mom. LOL! I am still awful about his flirts, I laugh at him.
I’m definitely in the second group. I am clueless about signals. Sometimes I think someone MIGHT have feelings, but then it turns out they were just being nice. Oh well. Thankfully I haven’t embarrassed myself too often in those instances. But anyway when someone is actually interested, I am surprised and disbelieving.
To me, probably a woman who goes around as if every man wants her is far more annoying. Maybe it’s because I don’t assume any woman wants me. I prefer to be pleasantly surprised.
I suppose you’d be annoyed by me and think that I am boring. I don’t think that every man wants me, but I am pretty good at picking up on signals and knowing the difference between when a man is being friendly or he wants more.
The secret to man signals is: there is no secret. Just like women, some are more demonstrative than others. Some do it unconsciously. Some just don’t know how. Here’s my advice: don’t try to figure it out. If you like someone, ask them out. Take the risk.
@Erika_Steele - Not annoyed at all…I just wish I knew HOW you tell the difference. A friend of mine says I am huge flirt…but talking to someone is not flirting, until you do the touching thing…and I don’t.
Definitely the second group. I’m pretty clueless when it comes to most people’s motivations.