May 11, 2012
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This I Do Believe...
I refuse to be dragged into a an abortion debate.
I know where I stand, and what I believe.
I will not change my mind.
Women MUST decide if they will commit to having a child or not.
Men may have an interest, but women ALONE can die as a direct result of childbirth, or complications of pregnancy.
Since that is FACT...a woman alone must make the choice to carry a pregnancy.
You are welcome to your own beliefs---I will not debate or argue them.
But you have NO RIGHT to force another woman, or worse, a young girl to do something because of your thoughts.
Their lives. Their bodies. Their choice.
Not yours.
And no...I'm not "tolerant" on this one.
Because when choice goes away, women die.
With choice, women who can't bear the thought of abortion are free NOT to have one.
The inverse is not true. Remove Choice, and women are forced to bear children, even if a pregnancy can ruin their lives, their health, or destroy their families.
Women Matter.
Women Count.
I CHOSE to become a mother...and it was the best thing I have ever done.
Had it been forced upon me, that would not be the case.
So...follow your own beliefs...but don't expect me to accept yours...no matter how passionately you may hold them.
Comments (20)
well spoken and i'm in agreement.
Excellent and I would rec this a million times if I could.
not trying to be a jerk, but your last line works both ways.
Totally agree Having my daughter was the best thing for me but wow I can not decide for anyone else
@buddy71 - true and we all need to accept each others beliefs and opinions
Amen to that, well said.
``had it been forced upon me, that would not be the case``
I feel the same way. Someday I want to become a mother but if the choice was not mine, I would put up a fight and soon my thoughts would change.
@specialxplaces - Thank you.
I wasn't like so many of my friends...I didn't play with baby dolls, or day dream about being a "mom" some day. It was only after I met the man I would someday marry that I gave the matter serious thought...three YEARS worth. I took parenthood seriously...and still do. It requires love, and commitment beyond ANYTHING else you can do. Perhaps some can do so without plan...but I never could...and I have watched too many falter when things got tough.
I love my daughter. I would do anything for her, but that love was born of choice...not "Oh damn...guess I'm knocked up".
My mother made damned sure I knew I was not planned...or particularly wanted...and that left its mark on my life. I made damned sure my daughter knew that I WANTED to be her mother...that I PLANNED her to be born. I think it made all the difference...
@buddy71 - no it doesn't.
@buddy71 - A couple of types of christian think they know better and they try to ram their OT views on everybody.
The rest of the world leaves people alone.
Right now some evangelical is telling me that my Episcopal church I was raised in is EVIL.
It's an entirely one sided phenomena
Thank you for posting this.
@Grannys_Place - true and we all need to accept each others beliefs and opinions
But they don't, Ruth, and they never will. We're naive to hope for that. It can only lead to disappointment.
@buddy71 - but women ALONE can die as a direct result of childbirth, or complications of pregnancy. Since that is FACT...a woman alone must make the choice to carry a pregnancy.
How do you figure THAT going both ways, Mister?
Absolutely well-put. As a man, I would NOT want the burden of deciding what a woman should do with her body.
Good post. We do matter, and we should have a voice.
Well said.
I honestly don't get the whole mentality of denying OTHER people choices. Why this all-consuming desire to have the government remove options from us? You don't want an abortion? Don't have one! But don't you dare tell others what to do.
At the most, the only restriction I might consider is if a woman has allowed the pregnancy - for no particular reason - to go past the first trimester, and both her and the fetus are healthy. Once it's no longer a clump of cells, and starts resembling an actual human, if there's no health risks of any sort in carrying the pregnancy to its conclusion, it seems irresponsible and vicious to get an abortion. In a case like that, maaaaybe I'd be willing to have a bit of a restriction. Other than that, no.
I'm going to share this to facebook. Thank you for sharing this.
@James_River - this is her last line and to what i was referring: "So...follow your own beliefs...but don't expect me to accept yours...no matter how passionately you may hold them."
@buddy71 - no way to separate out the last line from the essence of the blog given you will never be pregnant.
it will never be your body your choice.
@Unstoppable_Inner_Strength - I don't believe in choice without any parameters whatsoever either. Not at all.
but we're all supposedly identical, well that's not true.
@buddy71 - So you REQUIRE A REPLY, HUH?
Ok Buddy. Let's Chat.
Ever had a man force you to have sex?
Ever have your body so badly abused, it tore, and made you bleed?
Ever have them load you up with antibiotics after a rape...so you wouldn't get a social disease...sort of a bonus following rape?
Oh yeah...and let's have the whole event mess you up so badly, you lose a cycle for over a month. You'll be flat broke of course...no money, no insurance. If you are pregnant, you'll have to have the THING some monster FORCED into your body during a a CRIME.
I've tried to be polite...but clearly YOUR OPINION means so much to you that you just HAD to have a reply.
So do you feel like a BIG MAN NOW?
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